We moved to Miami 2 months ago and have been so busy with work?

...and transitioning that we really haven't had any fun -well I haven't...My husband has... We are married with a 1 year old child. The whole reason we moved here was to have family support. He had these grand plans including the two of us doing more couple things together and going to church more. Well we have been on 1 date since we've been here. And the last few times that a friend of my husband's comes in town, he acts like there's no tomorrow and has no regard for family responsibilities. Instead of working, he's spending the day hanging out. Then he goes to the bar/casino and stays out so late that he's not productive the next day. The last time he went out he wasn't answering my phone calls and instead was texting me. That made me feel a little insecure because he always answers my phone call. I usually don't call him at all when he goes out, unless it starts to get really late (last time was 6:30am). I hear all sorts of things about Miami and I'm starting to feel a little insecure about him going out so much. In the past, we've had issues with him drinking too much and staying out late (mostly before we got married; it has slowed down quite a bit in the last couple of years). I'm feeling resentful because he doesn't make time for us, but makes all this time for his friends. Not to mention that I hear the women are aggressive here which is not a good combination when coupled with drinking! I'm just really unhappy right now and I can't seem to convey this properly to my husband. It always comes off like I'm trying to control him...Am I just overreacting and being a little insecure? Or are my feelings valid?? I've asked this question before, but wanted to include more detail. Do I give him a taste of his own medicine? Or just relax because it's not like he does this every night. Only when a friend is in town...We moved to Miami 2 months ago and have been so busy with work?
well, i would be hurt if he didn't call me the entire night. it is appropriate to text in really loud environments (like a bar or a casino) because you can't hear the other person at the end of the line.



i do think that you could stand to benefit from having a night to yourself to do as you please. what if you request that from him. say, 'i've been supportive of you, but i'd like to have one night to myself each week, then do your own thing (not necessarily going to a bar or whatever, but get a hobby. do things you want to do). as for men doing this, it's kinda common, but i promise you, he won't want you to have your own night. maybe it will show him how it feels.