Should I leave my boyfriend of 2 years if he cheated on me?

Okay so, Im really in love with someone at the moment. Unfortunately He has done me wrong. I was married because It was good for me economically, and I had no supporters. My husband was a great man until I found out that he was engaged to 3 women at the same time and was using the millitary money to buy other women jewelry. I stayed home all day with my cousin and I just hoped that I could one day return back to Florida. I left my boyfriend of two years I still loved him, he just took me for granted. I came back to Florida and we had decided to give it a second try. So I got a full paid scholarship to New York city and I went to become a certified nursing assistant, and then study to become a registered nurse. One day out of the open he starts telling me that , If he had the opportunity to cheat on me that he would. I later get a text message form a girl telling me that she has been sleeping with my boyfriend and that hes been seeing her for about 2 months. I didn't believe her, and I didn't mention anything to him until a month later. she texted me from his phone and told me to leave him alone, and that she was his new girlfriend. Not to mention that I am the one who pays for the phone bill. I blamed myself for everything that was going on, because I thought that maybe if I was still in miami things would of been different. I DIDNT have family at all, because Im a foster kid, and so the scholarship was truly a blessing. I couldnt focus in school so they dropped me out of the state university there. I moved back to Miami, And I didnt come out of my condo for a week in Miami, and lost 20 lbs. I dont know what to do because he tells me that he loves me, but that he says that he wanted to try something new. He told me that he only wanted a companion because he was feeling lonely. I retaliated and told him that I have been aloen for all of my life, but people never wanted excuses from me. People Just wanted Results!!



But She forwarded me all the text msgs and she said that he told her that he is tired of me, because I leave him all alone In miami, but I did it because The bills will not get paid if I dont work, cuz I had lost my job down here, and I did everything I could do to possibly keep him happy.



He told me that he thought that I was going to just leave and that he didnt think that I had deserved him. Because he is too much of a good man for me to handle. That I dont have a family, but I use it too my advantage.



I don't feel sorry for myself, because My life isn't about feeling sorry for myself, every day in my life was a disappointment before I met him and I got my life together. I just never expected him to do this to me. Because even though I did love him with all of my heart I know I didnt deserve this. Ive always had to work hard for everything and lived in allot of homes, and yet I never complained about it because I had to grow up a long time ago and I never had a childhood.



So he told me that if it didn't work out with her that he would forever be committed to me. So I am so devastated I didn't know what to say and just hung up. And now he is begging me to come back to him, because he realized that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. But yet he is telling me that he is commited to me, but doesnt plan on marrying me until 3 years from now.



he puts a hold on everything, because hes scared of being hurt. And I dont know what to do anymore, because I have been hurt all of my life. and Its hard to remember the good moments, and I cant talk to anyone because He was my only friend. So Your advise would help.





Thank u!Should I leave my boyfriend of 2 years if he cheated on me?
He cheated......He's gone.....No further particulars required .....You're Welcome! Take care of YOU, and ENJOY...... 鈾モ櫏Should I leave my boyfriend of 2 years if he cheated on me?
I only read the title line... he cheated, get rid of him. There is NO excuse for cheating.
Tell him to go screw himself, and refuse to wait in the background. Gawd, this guy is a total louse, just get him OUT of your life!

There's a lot of far better men out there, go find one!Should I leave my boyfriend of 2 years if he cheated on me?
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Only you can make this decision. If you want to make it work, than go for that, but make sure you make some points clear. Tell him that yes, for awhile you aren't going to be able to trust him very much. Then make it clear that if you want to check his phone, or whatever to clear your mind that you feel that should be okay. See if he agrees. Granted, don't check it all the time, because then he will just clear it constantly. Instead if he agrees to this, then wait a couple weeks to a month before checking it for the first time with him knowing about it. Otherwise if you don't feel right in the relationship because you can't trust him then do yourself a favor and walk away now.Should I leave my boyfriend of 2 years if he cheated on me?
Make new friends, get a new boyfriend who know what he wants. This guy you believe you love isn't honest with you or himself. He needs to grow up and you need to see other men. Date all you want, but don't get seriously involved with anyone for a few years. Find yourself first.
I agree with "inkmepre..." comment!!!!!! Best Answer by a long shot!!!



Walk away girl. there's no love here. never was. never will be.



BTW, how old are you? Take some time to grow up. Put all that energy into yourself.
Did this story bore anyone else after the first three line's?

*YAWN* Dump him!!
Get a new life going for yourself. You are too wrapped up in this guy and not thinking CLEARLY. Go back to school and dump the bum!
I he cheated on you, definitely. If he did it once, most likely at some point he will do it again or something else that goes against your trust. nd he doesn't sound like a decisive about anything, which means you are always the one waiting while he tries to figure out what he wants to do. That's not good for you. You are setting yourself up for heartbreak. He sounds like you like him, i think you c remain friends. But if he can't be more, then you shouldn't be either. Move on, and if the stars somehow align later in life, then ok. Never wait.
i could not read that whole thing...wow! If he cheated, then leave him, there is no good reason for cheating.
My god...this guy is an a**hole. Please leave him...please...if he honestly truly cared for you and about you he wouldn't have put u through all this. U've been through soo much in ur life...u deserve better. U deserve someone who won't use ur past against you. Someone who will cherish you. Let him go sweety...he's not worth one more tear tear. If you need someone to talk to I can give u my e-mail addy if you like. (we have had similar lives) Once a cheated always a cheater, remember that.
It sounds as though he is using you and only finds the relationship with you convenient and takes advantage of it. In my opinion I don't think it's worth it. It sounds that you have put a lot of effort into the relationship and you just get sh*t on by him. What human being with any kind of morals would talk the way he did about you and then let the woman that he is cheating on you with text you from his phone? AND you pay the bill? My advice would be to find somebody that appreciates you for who you are and doesn't walk all over you. Oh and he is too much of a good man for you? Seriously? That is ridiculous. I hope that you can move on and find somebody better. Good Luck!
if it didnt work w/ her hed be committed to you??/ are you kidding? are you not worth more than that? take your new found education and experience and CREATE your own life. So... buddy gets tired of the girl he cheated w/ and wants you back? then gets tired of you goes back to her or finds a new one.



You are worth more than that. Keep saying it yourself until you belive it
you said, he's afraid of being hurt!! so what? does that give him free reine to hurt you??? this is crazy!!! this must be bad boyfriend/husband day. i've seen all these post about, how much these women are hurting because of their sorry azz men. i just don't get it!!! it's one thing thing to be in a terrible relationship, but to go back to a guy that was once engaged to 3 women, that's bordering on stupidity!!! i just dont get it!



there are far too many good men out here, for us to settle for these losers! men mistreat us because we allow them to. we keep going back, let them disrespect us, mistreat us, and then we go back!!!

how can we expect anything better if we don't demand it! we deserve to be treated better than this, and if were not willing to stand up for ourselves, know one is going too stand with us.



just because you don't have family, doesn't mean you have to settle for anyone or any treatment. i'm not saying, things are going to be easy, but please love yourself enough too not go through this. you'll

find another man, you can even find a good man, but if you're willing to go through these hard times it will become easier.



good luck
Drop that zero and get with a hero. Whatever that means. Honestly, I didn't read your question since it was very long. Oh well, better days.