Monday, February 6, 2012

Help me please! I'm having boyfriend trouble, have no idea what to do. :(?

Ok so I have been dating a guy named Michael for a month now. I live in a town near Boston, MA and he lives in New York City and we are both 15. We have...or should I say I have been up and down with him. I love him so much that it hurts! He tells me the same thing, but he has not told me since last year neither has shown it :(. Whenever he doesn't talk to me for a day I think it's because he's busy. When it becomes 2 days I start to worry about him. When it's 3 days I become very desperate to know if he's ok and why he hasn't replied to my messages on Facebook or txt me at all. More days than this I just become really sad and wonder what's going on! I think I'm just clingy or easily paranoid :/. When it goes to 3+ days, it's usually a logical explanation. But this has been going on for almost 2 weeks! I have been trying SO HARD to meet up with Michael even BEFORE we got together! Like I was in New York City twice between the time I met him and the time before we dated and he is always like "I don't know" every time I ask him where I can meet him. My parents planned to see him to this weekend and every time I asked him if this time is ok ether on Facebook or through txt. He ether goes offline or doesn't reply back. Yesterday he finally told me that I can't come because it's "too soon" because he was on vacation in Miami and he just got back this past Sunday. What made me mad was because I got the news from my friend Rita! He has been carrying conversations like this since the new year! Like Rita is now our messaging bird. He doesn't talk to me about serious stuff directly it's ether a reply through Rita or "I don't know". I feel that he is putting no effort into our relationship anymore, and is positively not putting effort into me seeing him! I feel like if he did cared about seeing me, he could have at least said "I don't know right now, I will ask my parents and get back to you on it." But him saying "I don't know" I feel that he doesn't care about me. I hate it when people ask me how I met Michael (I met him mutually through my friend Rita in October on Facebook. Rita knows him from camp he went up here during 2 summers ago and has hanged out with him every summer since then. I actually don't know him in person). People give me this look like I'm dating a pedophile, and he's nothing but an internet profile that's fake. But I know he's a real person! And he's a REALLY nice guy! I decided to date him because he is the first GAY GUY that is NICE and actually wants to date me! It's SO HARD to find gay/bi guys to date, not to mention emotionally ready ones that are NICE AND DO NOT USE YOU! I know if I break up with Michael, it will take me FOREVER to find a guy just like him to replace. My heart doesn't want to break up with him because he is the best thing I ever had! But my brain is saying to break up with him because he's putting no effort into our relationship and I will later find another guy like him. :l Like I want to be with him and repair things, but he's is just not available to talk to me anymore! It's so difficult now just to even say Hello or good morning even if I txt him EVERYDAY and leave my Facebook open like 9 HOURS A DAY AFTER SCHOOL AND ALL DAY ON THE WEEKENDS! Please help me! I have been so depressed over all of this and I just want to stop feeling this way! What do I do?Help me please! I'm having boyfriend trouble, have no idea what to do. :(?
I am really sorry to say this, as you obviously feel for him very strongly, but he doesn't seem very interest or in love to me... Don't worry, you still have your whole life in front of you to find the right guy. :)Help me please! I'm having boyfriend trouble, have no idea what to do. :(?
Weirdly, I have a same situation with u, and I would really like to start a conversation. Let me know, k?Help me please! I'm having boyfriend trouble, have no idea what to do. :(?
Well Rick, I'm sad to say this looks very much like a one sided attraction to me. Your friend has obviously moved on from your initial friendship/intimacy and clearly doesn't want/need to share the same emotional feelings to you as you do to him.



Obviously you won't want to hear this. But unfortunately it's a fact of life when we are young. We fall in love, or get besotted or infatuated with someone we like and look up to, only to find they don't feel the same. Makes you feel unwanted, depressed and gives the illusion that life will never be kind to you. But.....



We all go through it. Most teenagers, straight or gay, get emotionally hurt. It's part of learning about life and our emotions and I'm not being patronising in saying this, just telling it how it is.



You still have the world at your fingertips and still legally a minor, even though you may feel very strongly about your feelings and sexuality. I bet there are many gay guys around your age living in your area, or certainly in Boston. Once you start to get out and socialise, you'll no doubt meet other guys who may have mutual feelings towards you. Here is a website for gay Boston. You can find more websites if you search Google for gay boston help



http://boston-online.com/Gay/index.html

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